Character First: Why Everyday Manners Matter in Hockey and Life 🏒
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In a recent “Ride to the Rink” episode, hosts Lee and Mike share a simple story with a profound lesson: true character shines in ordinary moments. Here’s what parents and young players alike can learn from this powerful episode.
1. Small Acts, Big Impact
A coach’s son received praise at an ice-cream shop—not for scoring or flashy plays, but for saying “please,” “thank you,” and treating everyone kindly. That moment meant enough to the cashier that she reached out to the coach. It shows how little gestures in everyday settings can leave lasting impressions .
2. Represent Your Team 24/7
When players wear their team gear, they become ambassadors—on and off the ice. Mike explains, “people associate you and your behavior with an organization.” Manners and accountability help young players build a strong, lasting reputation.
3. Character Isn’t Optional
Lee recalls coaching top-tier youth and pro teams—and he underscores: professionalism off the ice is non-negotiable. If a player misbehaves anywhere, they face consequences. The earlier players internalize respect and accountability, the better prepared they are for higher levels .
4. Be Fierce—but Be Kind
It’s OK to be aggressive on the ice—think NHL enforcer Chris Pronger. But that determination shouldn’t overshadow compassion off the ice. Mike stresses: “You could be a nasty player… but off the ice, [be] one of the nicest people around.” Excellence and kindness can—and should—coexist.
đź’ˇ Tips for Raising Character-Driven Hockey Kids
| Focus | Actions You Can Take |
|---|---|
| Model Kindness | Use “please” and “thank you” in daily life and at games. |
| Hold Them Accountable | Mistakes happen—address them calmly and constructively. |
| Celebrate Off-Ice Wins | Notice and praise acts of kindness and respect. |
| Set Team Standards | Reinforce that character and teamwork matter everywhere. |
| Discuss Representation | Talk about how characters in gear represent the team at school, restaurants, anywhere. |
🎧 Episode Snapshot
Tune into The Ride to the Rink: Character Counts—On and Off the Ice, released June 4 2025. It’s a short but powerful reminder that character matters most when no one's watching.
Final Say
Great athletes are built on grit—but it’s their character that truly sets them apart. By encouraging simple kindness and responsibility, parents help young players carry hockey’s lessons into everyday life.
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How do you encourage character in your young athlete—both on and off the rink? Comment below or send us a message—we’re building a community that values more than goals and assists.
Adapted from insights shared on the Our Kids Play Hockey podcast’s “Ride to the Rink: Character Counts—On and Off the Ice” .